Public speaking can be just as debilitating to a relationship as infidelity or divorce. It is vital that you learn how to survive this not so easy task and make it far less stressful.
First, learn to adapt your approach to public speaking to the audience. Take note of what they are saying and make sure you are mixing it up with the words you say. Speak in a way that you feel comfortable with and that will help the point you are trying to make.
Second, avoid emotional responses to criticism. Everyone gets it wrong at some point in their lives and at times we are unable to control our emotions. But you should remember that if you try to win a debate by making the other person look bad you will never be able to win. We get what we deserve for doing what we do!
Third, don’t allow your personal beliefs or lack of confidence to be the enemy of your own weakness. Everyone has something they believe in and sometimes we forget that. However, public speaking is not about which team you’re on, rather it’s about communicating your message to the right people at the right time. So never let yourself be distracted by feelings of inadequacy and always keep the focus on your message.
Fourth, remember that people have preconceived notions about speakers. Some people look at speakers as know-it-alls or very knowledgeable and that could be the reason they might think you can’t communicate. Avoid getting into arguments or having confrontations with the audience. If you feel that you’re going to need to respond to something they are saying, either speak or don’t speak. Don’t lose your temper, but if necessary don’t stand up and leave.
Fifth, try to remember that you’re not going to be good at everything. Many speakers make their name by being great at what they do. So be careful not to do that. Remember that you may get frustrated and maybe even lose your cool at times.
Sixth, avoid situations where you are required to do anything but talk and/or answer questions. What I mean by this is when you are asked to get up and leave, the last thing you need is a situation where you are forced to walk away. People often use this opportunity to interrupt the speaker with questions. Try to avoid these situations because if you answer questions incorrectly, you may find yourself spending more time answering them in class later.
Fifth, be sure to try to practice before you have to give a speech. Don’t set out to do this in a rush. It will be better to set aside some time every week or so to practice speaking and answering questions. Many times, the final product of a public speaking class could be better if you practice several times before the actual class. So use this time wisely and ensure that you are able to handle whatever comes your way.
Sixth, don’t be afraid to ask questions. There are many things you would rather be prepared for. However, be prepared for any questions asked by the audience. This will go a long way to strengthening your reputation and also ensuring that you have a positive and appropriate public image. It’s best to understand that people want to learn and that they are willing to take the time to learn.
Seventh, don’t be afraid to network with people who attend a public speaking class. They may well know someone who might be able to help you in your professional life. They may know someone who might be able to help you. There are many people who get to talk to a lot of professionals and don’t even know it. So networking is always a good idea.
Eight, never give up on your goals of public speaking. You can overcome your public speaking fears, your worries, and your challenges and overcome the many setbacks you may encounter.